So I got up this morning and hit my Facebook page like I always do. I see this article done by Essence Magazine where they interviewed R&B artist Robin Thick. And in the article they asked him cheesy questions about his relationship with his wife Paula Patton. Now I already knew there was going to be some bullshit with this article because from the onset it appeared that Essence is planting into the mind of black women that nobody can love them better than a white man. In fact I believe Robin Thick has been interviewed more about his relationship with his wife than Will Smith has been interviewed about his relationship with Jada Pinket-Smith. But I digress. But at the end of the article the interviewer asked him about the media sending out the message to black women that they are better off dating white men. HELLO?
If not for the fact that I can only use so much profanity in this blog, I would call this some utter bullshit. First of all why is a black publication (the media) asking a white man about the media's message to black women that they are better off dating white men? You just spent the entire damn interview telling black women in a publication geared towards them how great Paula Patton got it cause she has herself a white man. This is just ridiculous on so many levels. Essence definately gets a failing grade for that bullshit. But let me explain to the readers where I am going with this.
There are plenty of good black men out here. How do I know? Because I am one and I see them everyday. I see them in all walks of life from the power executive in the Fortune 500 companies to the guy bagging your groceries at your local supermarket. I see them teaching in classrooms and I see them delivering mail. But what I define as a good black man is different than what most black women see as one. And therein lies the problem. I have listened to black women for years state there are no good black men out there. And that is a fallicy. The problem is there are no men out there that fits your fairytale description of what a good black man is. See NOW I am about to step on some toes.
The reason there are no good black men out here in the opinion of so many black women is because black women concern themselves more with their wants than their needs. You want a man who is a thug. You want a man who has swag (whatever the FUCK that is). You want a man who is a corporate thug. And we as men laugh at you and shake our heads collectively because you think you know what you want and have absolutely no clue what you need. Most of the time you want all these things in a man without considering what you yourself are bringing to the table. You want perfection according to your likes but you offer it. In essence you are what the comedian Chris Rock described as "Poor hoes with expensive taste." Then you have those women who work moreso on obtaining material things, gaining degrees in higher education, who consider themselves "good women" but are nothing more than fragile creatures with a boatload of character flaws. They want a man who can match their accomplishments as if those things will gaurantee a successful relationship. And they find out time and time again it doesnt.
Here is my solution. And this isn't really a subject I am prepared to dive in to deeply because there is more pressing shit on my mind that I would like to torture you all with. But there are good men walking by you every day. A good man to you might not be a good man to the next person. A good man is one who can add on to your own personal happiness. And if you aint happy, Jesus aint gonna be a good man to you. Look for things that matter. Stop looking for bullshit that doesn't. Take it from a good man. Plenty of us out there.
